When You Just Can’t Get Along
Based on The Composure Lab™ — the science of staying steady when life gets loud.
Before: You replay arguments, trying to prove your point.
After: You read reactions as data and lead yourself with composure.
Conflict is inevitable; disconnection isn’t.
Most of us think we need to fix other people to feel at peace.
But the real power comes from learning how not to lose yourself in the process.
In When You Just Can’t Get Along™, therapist and mediator Susan Regan, MFT reveals why conflict isn’t about the issue — it’s about unmet needs and silent expectations.
Her framework, The Composure Lab™, teaches the inner science of emotional steadiness: how to map your triggers, regulate your body, and lead with integrity.
"Regulating yourself regulates the room."
The Composure Lab™ — Five Steps to Transform Reactivity into Leadership
What Happens When You Stop Taking Things Personally
Neuroscience
The amygdala-body feedback loop explains why you can’t think clearly mid-conflict. -Huberman
Philosophy
Control is the enemy of peace; letting go restores alignment. -Watts
Relational Systems
Hidden expectations and emotional contracts silently dictate behavior. -Perel
"The moment you stop trying to win, you start learning."
The Composure Lab™ Podcast
Where psychology meets practicality.
Real conversations about staying grounded when life gets loud.
Also featuring #SoRelatable — Susan’s companion podcast exploring real-life relationship moments behind the theory.
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Her signature keynote — “When You Just Can’t Get Along” — reveals how understanding our triggers transforms emotional tension into emotional intelligence.